| Part 1: Seeing Aging Through Your Parents' Eyes |
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Aging as Your Parent Sees It |
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3 | (8) |
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Living in an Ageist Society |
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3 | (2) |
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5 | (1) |
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6 | (1) |
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6 | (2) |
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8 | (1) |
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8 | (3) |
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Getting to Know a Different Body |
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11 | (12) |
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12 | (1) |
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12 | (2) |
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12 | (1) |
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13 | (1) |
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Aging: Everybody's Doing It |
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14 | (9) |
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14 | (1) |
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14 | (3) |
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I've Had It with Counting Sheep! |
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17 | (2) |
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19 | (1) |
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Now, Why Did I Go to the Store? |
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20 | (3) |
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Not-So-Normal Aging: The Physical Side |
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23 | (12) |
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Hard to Hold: Incontinence |
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24 | (3) |
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25 | (1) |
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26 | (1) |
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27 | (2) |
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27 | (1) |
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28 | (1) |
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28 | (1) |
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29 | (1) |
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29 | (2) |
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31 | (1) |
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32 | (1) |
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Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD) |
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33 | (2) |
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Not-So-Normal Aging: The Mental Side |
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35 | (12) |
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Why Your Parents' Mental Health Is at Risk |
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36 | (2) |
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Changes in Sleep Patterns |
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36 | (1) |
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36 | (1) |
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36 | (1) |
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37 | (1) |
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38 | (1) |
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When It's More Than Just the Blues |
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39 | (3) |
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40 | (1) |
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40 | (1) |
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41 | (1) |
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42 | (1) |
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43 | (1) |
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44 | (1) |
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Lifestyle Changes: Good for the Mind |
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45 | (2) |
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Brain Attacks (Strokes) and Heart Attacks |
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47 | (10) |
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48 | (1) |
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48 | (1) |
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48 | (1) |
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49 | (1) |
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49 | (1) |
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49 | (1) |
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50 | (1) |
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50 | (1) |
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Parents in the Driver's Seat |
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51 | (1) |
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The Big Four ``Widow Makers'' |
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52 | (5) |
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52 | (1) |
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53 | (1) |
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54 | (1) |
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Congestive Heart Failure (CHF) |
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55 | (2) |
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Alzheimer's Disease and Cancer |
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57 | (12) |
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Alzheimer's: Just How Common Is It? |
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58 | (1) |
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Dementia and Alzheimer's Disease |
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58 | (3) |
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58 | (1) |
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If You Think Your Mom or Dad Has Dementia |
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59 | (2) |
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The Three Stages of Alzheimer's Disease |
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61 | (1) |
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62 | (7) |
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62 | (1) |
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63 | (1) |
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63 | (1) |
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64 | (1) |
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65 | (1) |
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Never Too Old to Prevent Cancer |
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66 | (3) |
| Part 2: The World of Geriatric Health Care |
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69 | (50) |
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Managing the Health Care Maze---Even from a Distance |
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71 | (12) |
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72 | (1) |
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Geriatric Assessments---Getting the Lay of the Land |
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73 | (1) |
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74 | (1) |
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Coming Up with a Family Plan |
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75 | (1) |
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76 | (3) |
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76 | (1) |
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77 | (2) |
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Cyber Seniors: Staying in Touch via Computer |
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79 | (1) |
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79 | (4) |
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What Do Geriatric Care Managers Charge? |
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80 | (1) |
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Questions to Ask a Potential Care Manager |
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80 | (3) |
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83 | (12) |
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84 | (2) |
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Drugs That Don't Get Along |
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84 | (1) |
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85 | (1) |
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85 | (1) |
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Different Bodies, Different Doses |
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86 | (1) |
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86 | (1) |
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87 | (1) |
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``I'd Rather Fight Than Switch'' |
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88 | (2) |
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90 | (1) |
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Buying Medications on the Internet |
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90 | (2) |
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Saving Money on Prescriptions |
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92 | (3) |
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95 | (12) |
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Finding the Right Hospital |
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96 | (1) |
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97 | (1) |
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Consent at the Registration Desk |
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97 | (1) |
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Medical Errors in Hospitals |
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98 | (4) |
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99 | (1) |
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100 | (1) |
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101 | (1) |
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Becoming a Patient Advocate |
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102 | (1) |
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103 | (1) |
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103 | (1) |
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104 | (3) |
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107 | (12) |
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What Does Your Parent Need? |
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108 | (2) |
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108 | (1) |
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109 | (1) |
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110 | (1) |
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110 | (1) |
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Hiring Through a Home Health Care Agency |
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111 | (1) |
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Who's Who in the Home Health Care Biz |
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112 | (3) |
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Durable Medical Equipment (DME) and Supply Companies |
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113 | (1) |
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Pharmaceutical and Infusion Therapy Companies |
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113 | (1) |
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114 | (1) |
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115 | (1) |
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116 | (1) |
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117 | (1) |
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117 | (2) |
| Part 3: Understanding You and Your Parent's Options |
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119 | (70) |
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Remaining at Home: Making It Work |
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121 | (12) |
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122 | (1) |
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122 | (2) |
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124 | (1) |
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Creating a Senior-Friendly Home |
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124 | (5) |
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125 | (1) |
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Danger Zone: The Bathroom |
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125 | (1) |
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Don't Trip Up on Carpeting |
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126 | (1) |
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General Lighting Concerns |
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127 | (1) |
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127 | (2) |
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Senior-Friendly Lifestyles |
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129 | (2) |
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129 | (1) |
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Pills on Delivery and Daily Dispensers |
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129 | (1) |
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130 | (1) |
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130 | (1) |
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130 | (1) |
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131 | (1) |
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131 | (2) |
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Living in the Community: Services and Transportation |
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133 | (14) |
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Services in the Community: First Stop, the AAA |
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134 | (5) |
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Senior Centers---More Than Bingo! |
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135 | (1) |
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135 | (1) |
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The Phone Book---Go for the Color |
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136 | (1) |
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Senior Marketing Discounts and Services |
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137 | (2) |
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Getting Around in the Community |
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139 | (8) |
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Should Miss Daisy Be Driving? |
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140 | (1) |
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141 | (1) |
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142 | (1) |
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142 | (3) |
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Using Public Transportation |
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145 | (2) |
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147 | (10) |
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148 | (1) |
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College Days Are Here Again: House Mates |
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149 | (1) |
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149 | (1) |
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150 | (1) |
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Foster Care: It's Not Just for Kids |
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150 | (1) |
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Continuing Care Retirement Communities (CCRCs) |
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151 | (2) |
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Check Out Their Financial Solvency |
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151 | (1) |
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Ask if They Are Accredited by the CCAC |
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151 | (1) |
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Three Kinds of Agreements |
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152 | (1) |
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Questions You'll Want to Ask |
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153 | (1) |
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153 | (2) |
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153 | (1) |
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Property Tax Deferral Program |
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154 | (1) |
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155 | (2) |
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157 | (10) |
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Who Shouldn't Go to an Assisted Living Facility? |
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158 | (1) |
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158 | (1) |
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What Do Assisted Living Facilities Look Like? |
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159 | (1) |
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What Mom or Dad Should Expect |
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160 | (1) |
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161 | (1) |
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162 | (3) |
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Checking Out Their Reputation |
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165 | (1) |
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166 | (1) |
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167 | (12) |
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168 | (1) |
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Who Goes to Nursing Homes? |
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168 | (1) |
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169 | (3) |
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169 | (1) |
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170 | (1) |
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171 | (1) |
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Medi-Gap or Medicare Supplemental Insurance |
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171 | (1) |
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171 | (1) |
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172 | (1) |
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172 | (1) |
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172 | (1) |
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173 | (1) |
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174 | (1) |
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175 | (4) |
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179 | (10) |
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First Things First: Assessing Your Parent's Care |
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180 | (1) |
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Easing the Adjustment Period |
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180 | (1) |
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A Rundown of the Major Players |
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181 | (1) |
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The Kind of Care You Should Expect |
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182 | (3) |
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185 | (1) |
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What to Do on Your Visits |
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186 | (1) |
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187 | (1) |
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188 | (1) |
| Part 4: Caregiving: Coming to Live with You |
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189 | (46) |
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191 | (10) |
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What Does Your Parent Need? |
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192 | (1) |
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193 | (3) |
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193 | (2) |
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195 | (1) |
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196 | (1) |
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196 | (2) |
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196 | (1) |
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197 | (1) |
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197 | (1) |
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198 | (2) |
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200 | (1) |
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Caring for Someone at Home: The Basics |
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201 | (12) |
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202 | (2) |
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203 | (1) |
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Doctors Orders and Nurse's Notes |
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203 | (1) |
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Accident-Proofing the House |
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203 | (1) |
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204 | (1) |
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Nutrition---What's to Eat? |
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205 | (3) |
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208 | (1) |
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209 | (1) |
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210 | (3) |
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213 | (10) |
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What You May Feel About Caregiving |
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214 | (1) |
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214 | (3) |
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215 | (1) |
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Involve Other Family Members |
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216 | (1) |
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Take Advantage of Community Services |
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216 | (1) |
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217 | (1) |
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Adult Day Services to the Rescue |
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217 | (1) |
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218 | (1) |
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219 | (1) |
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219 | (1) |
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220 | (3) |
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End-of-Life Matters and Hospice |
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223 | (12) |
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What Most People Want When They're Dying |
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224 | (1) |
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225 | (1) |
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Coming to Terms with Dying |
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226 | (2) |
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228 | (4) |
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229 | (1) |
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Medicare Covers Hospice Care |
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229 | (1) |
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230 | (1) |
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Questions to Ask a Hospice Provider |
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231 | (1) |
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Some Parting Words About Family |
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232 | (3) |
| Part 5: Financial and Legal Matters |
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235 | (92) |
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Got to Have Those M&Ms: Medicare and Medicaid |
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237 | (14) |
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238 | (3) |
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Covering the Gap: Medi-Gap |
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241 | (1) |
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242 | (1) |
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Out in the Cold: What Medicare Doesn't Cover |
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243 | (1) |
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What's This About Assignment? |
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243 | (1) |
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Original Medicare or Medicare Managed Care? |
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244 | (3) |
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How Does Medicare Managed Care Work? |
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245 | (1) |
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A New Alternative: Private-Fee-for-Service Plans |
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245 | (2) |
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247 | (1) |
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247 | (1) |
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The Other ``M'': Medicaid |
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247 | (4) |
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247 | (1) |
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248 | (1) |
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248 | (3) |
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The Saving Private Ryan Generation |
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251 | (10) |
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New Rules: Dad's Got to Enroll |
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252 | (1) |
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VA Health Care Benefits Package |
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253 | (4) |
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254 | (1) |
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If They Don't Have It, They'll Get It |
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255 | (1) |
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255 | (1) |
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Alzheimer's/Dementia Program |
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256 | (1) |
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Geriatric Research, Education, and Clinical Centers (GRECCs) |
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256 | (1) |
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256 | (1) |
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Burial and Memorial Benefits |
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257 | (2) |
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Burial at a Military Cemetery |
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257 | (1) |
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257 | (1) |
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257 | (1) |
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Presidential Memorials and Burial Flags |
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258 | (1) |
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Tracking Down Old Buddies |
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259 | (2) |
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Beating Out-of-Pocket Expenses |
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261 | (12) |
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262 | (2) |
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Doctors Who Take Assignment |
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262 | (1) |
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262 | (1) |
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263 | (1) |
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263 | (1) |
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263 | (1) |
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264 | (1) |
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264 | (1) |
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264 | (1) |
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Why Buy Long-Term Care Insurance? |
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265 | (1) |
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Finding a Good Insurance Company |
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265 | (1) |
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What You Should Look for in a Policy |
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266 | (4) |
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What Kind of Care Is Covered? |
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266 | (1) |
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What's a Reasonable Reimbursement Rate? |
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267 | (1) |
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268 | (1) |
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Coverage for Alzheimer's and Dementia |
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268 | (1) |
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268 | (1) |
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Are There Eligibility Requirements? |
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269 | (1) |
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What's the Maximum, and for How Long? |
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269 | (1) |
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Waivers and Guaranteed Renewals |
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269 | (1) |
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Fixed Premiums for Fixed Incomes |
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270 | (1) |
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Upgrade Privileges and Nonforfeiture Protection |
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270 | (1) |
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Pre-Existing Conditions and Exclusions |
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270 | (1) |
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A Word on Travel Insurance |
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270 | (3) |
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273 | (10) |
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What's an Advance Directive? |
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274 | (4) |
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274 | (3) |
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Durable Health Care Power of Attorney |
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277 | (1) |
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Federal Law: The Patient Self-Determination Act |
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278 | (1) |
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General Power of Attorney |
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279 | (1) |
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Guardianship---Are You Sure? |
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279 | (1) |
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Just What Is Death, Anyway? |
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280 | (3) |
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Lawyers, Wills, and Estate Planning |
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283 | (44) |
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The New Legal Beagles: Elder Law Attorneys |
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284 | (2) |
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Finding an Elder Law Attorney |
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284 | (1) |
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285 | (1) |
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Talking to Your Parents About Their Assets |
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286 | (2) |
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Where There's a Will, There's a Way |
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288 | (1) |
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289 | (1) |
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289 | (2) |
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289 | (1) |
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290 | (1) |
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Irrevocable Living Trusts |
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290 | (1) |
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291 | (1) |
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On Being an Executor: Honor or Headache? |
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291 | (2) |
| Appendixes |
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293 | (14) |
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B National List of State Units on Aging |
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307 | (10) |
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C Dr. Rhodes' Nursing Home Navigator |
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317 | (8) |
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D Nursing Home Bill of Rights |
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325 | (2) |
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